Choosing what to name your baby is no small responsibility. It’s not uncommon for couples to not be on the same page in regards to what to call their child, but this Mom-to-be is taking it to a whole new level. She’s considering divorcing her husband over what he wants to name their baby.
This might seem like one heck of a drastic measure to you, but…. her husband wants to name their baby the same name as his ex! She anonymously took to Reddit to ask for advice on how to handle the situation. She also revealed to readers that her husband’s ex was the woman he “loved the most.” In addition, the two dated for a very long period of time.
That’s hardly the end of the story, though. This particular ex even caused issues in their marriage. She eventually moved out of town, and this Mom-to-be thought her departure meant the end of the problems she was having with her husband. That was…until her husband announced he wanted to name their baby after her!
“Now he made it clear that he wants the baby to have that name and I can name the second child,” she told the Reddit community.
“When I asked him why does he want that name so badly he said just because he and his ex dint work out doesn’t mean he doesn’t want something to keep reminding him of her. He doesn’t understand how much its affecting me and keeps saying its just the hormones. Is he still in love with the ex or its normal that he wants to name OUR child like that.”
Reddit; pictured above is the original post from this Mom-to-be explaining her dilemma
The whole post reads:
“Hello reddit. This title might look funny but its an actual problem between me (23F) and my husband (24M). We’ve been dating for a year, been married for 2 years. I got pregnant like 7 months ago so recently we started discussing name for the baby. Ever since we found out its gonna be a girl my husband wants to name it like his exes name.
Its not any ex but the one he dated for long period of time and loved the most. In the beginning of our relationship we had may problems because of her but she moved away so the problems went away.
He really loved her and he never hid that from me but I thought it was over once she moved away. Now he made it clear that he wants the baby to have that name and I can name the second child. When I asked him why does he want that name so badly he said just because he and his ex didnt work out doesnt mean he doesnt want something to keep reminding him of her.
He doesnt understand how much its affecting me and keeps saying its just the hormones. Is he still in love with the ex or its normal that he wants to name OUR child like that. Thank you!”
The Reddit community stepped up to offer her some sage advice. One user said, “I’m more concerned about his lack of respect for you as his partner, his number one, his wife. You might try relationship counseling but I suspect his disrespect extends beyond the baby naming issue.”
Another added, “My husband: “guy sounds like a fucking imbecile… and a creep”. To be fair, then, he said maybe OP should have seen the warning signs before they were married. OP, I hope you get out of this disrespectful marriage before you start believing this is all you’re worth.”
“When your daughter gets older how do you explain that to her? “Oh honey, daddy wanted to name you after an ex girlfriend because even though things didn’t work out with them, that doesn’t mean he didn’t want to be reminded of her every single day.” I mean really? That’s why you keep a card or maybe a picture? Like nothing is more creepy than this. I don’t know if he’s still in love with her and just settled with you, or if he is just really stupid. To blame it on your hormones is a joke.” A third user went on to say.
Weirdly enough, there are a heck of a lot of comments on this post from people that were actually named after one of their parents’ exes. Strange. I think it is safe to assume that if your husband wants to only name your child after his ex, there is just no way he is over her.